In life there will always be people, who along with their own problems, shoulder the burdens of others. For some, they appear to have little choice, deposited upon them unasked for. For others, its a choice!

Its the people who choose, the latter, that I would like to talk about. They tell themselves that they are helping. That without their help the person with the problem, would not cope, or are unable to resolve the situation properly for themselves. They will not see it as interference, they will not see it as dis empowering, and they will definitely not see, that it is coming from their ego.

The Ego likes to be in control, if it can also control others, it is even happier. For some, it is just their way and may even be on an unconscious level. There is also the need, to be needed, to feel indispensable. Self growth means addressing this and other negative aspects of the ego and personality. Stripping away the layers the ego covers itself with, to see it for what it truly is.

People need to make their own decisions. If they have made mistakes or errors of judgment, it is only by dealing with the ‘fall out’, or ‘consequences’ of their actions that they will learn, what works for them and what doesn’t. What will cause pain to oneself and to others.

Be an ‘empowerer’ an ‘encourager, but never tell someone what you would do. When we take personal responsibility away from someone, no matter how well meant our intentions are, we are depriving them of the opportunity to grow and mature.

If we continue to keep trying to ‘rescue’ people, who will ‘rescue’ them when we are not around. If you really love and care about someone, show your respect for them and faith, that they have the ability within themselves to make good decisions based on what they need or want in their lives. You can’t know what is right for someone else as no one else can know what you need. By doing this, you will really be helping them, in the best possible way.