If you want to succeed, you’ve got to believe; and most importantly in yourself. You more then anyone else in this world deserves to be happy.
In the words of Alan Cohen “Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy? This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself. The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth. Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from inside out”.
Self-esteem is described as confidence in one’s own worth or abilities, and pertains to a personal appraisal of ourselves. Yet, unfortunately, we often make this evaluation based on cues we receive from society. In other words, we look to others to establish who we are, how we should behave, and how we are valued, even though this social reflection is not an accurate indicator of who we are and what we are capable of.
The bottom line is, try not to rely totally on the outside world to validate who you are. A better option is look at ways to redress the balance by believing in, and validating yourself. However, so often you are your own worst enemy. You berate yourself, nitpick every little failure (while ignoring your successes), and you doubt your skills and potential.
If you can strengthen your belief in yourself, there is no doubt that you will succeed. To help you strengthen your belief in yourself, here are 5 ways to get you started.
1. Go with your gut instincts, be guided by your intuition. This may seem a risky thing to do, but it is better then sitting on the fence prevaricating. No matter who you are, making a decision that can completely change your life is completely scary. You can never know what crossroad is the right choice to take until it’s too late to turn back.
Often what can seem like a bad choice or decision can often turn out to be the best thing you ever did. Because taking a risk, gets you out of your comfort zone. It stretches you. You try new things. You discover an aptitude or talent for a skill or interest you have never attempted before. This can only enhance your self confidence. If it goes wrong, you will have discovered new strengths within yourself, by dealing with the fallout. There is no such thing as a meaningless experience in life, good or bad, we learn many valuable lessons.
2. Write down what makes you unique. Writing down your strengths and abilities, your positive qualities is a wonderful exercise. People often finish doing this amazed. Seeing it down in black and white is so affirming. I challenge anyone who says, that they do not feel better about themselves after doing this.
3. Recall the adversities you’ve endured. You are a little bruised or have been badly hurt by negative experiences, but you have survived! Many, will focus on being the victim. They will not get passed this and it is so damaging to the self esteem and the psyche. Long after the storm has passed, they are still hiding from the elements. But you are NOT a victim. You made it through, you came out the other side.This means you are strong! You are brave! You have courage! How can you NOT believe in yourself. By viewing these experiences from this perspective, it will change the way you view what has happened to you, and shift from a negative mindset to a positive one.
4. Claim ownership of your dreams and life. No one is going to hand you your dreams and no one has the right to take them away from you. So you must take full ownership of them and your life. Your dreams aren’t going to be achieved without you or without you believing in yourself. Decide today, that you are going to take that step forward the first step of many to realising your dreams and your goals in life. It only takes one little step! Do not allow others to undermine or diminish your dreams or faith in yourself. We all have a talent, a genuis for something. It is simply a process of finding out what yours is.
A quote I love by Albert Einstein says “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing that it is stupid”. A brilliant man, who knew what he was talking about. This is why it is so important, not to judge or measure your worth by the opinions of others. Or by understimating your own potential and abilities by becoming over awed or impressed by the achievements of others. The only difference between you and them, is that they have found what they excel at and your potential is awaiting your discovery. But never doubt that it is not there!
5. Strengthen your belief that things will work out. May Rowland said “When faith becomes a flame in man’s mind, he sees by the light of this flame that there are no impossible situations. He knows that there is a way through every difficulty.” Joseph Murphy said “Imagine the happy ending or solution to your problem, feel the thrill of accomplishment, and what you imagine and feel will be accepted by your subconscious mind and bring it to pass.”
These are wonderful inspiring words, words to live by. Written by people, who have been through the same experiences and self doubt in themselves that we have. What we think what we believe in, creates our outer world. It is the inner fire of self belief that motivates and propels us forward. All these things are yours for the asking, all you have to do, is BELIEVE in YOU.